>> the parental leash for teens

Although you will probably never hear the words “power” and “authority” mentioned during an argument between a parent and teenager, the underlying conflict is usually about these two words. Teens often want more control over their lives, usually at a quicker pace than most parents are willing to offer. Transferring power to a teen is a delicate process that is best done in baby steps during the decade of adolescence. You gradually let out the parental leash as your teen demonstrates the maturity to handle each new situation. When immature behavior prevails, you reel in the leash. It’s an incredible balancing act for parents. Too much power too soon can lead to dangerous situations and disrespect for authority. Too little power will leave the teen ill-prepared for adulthood.

Have faith in your own intuition and good sense as you transfer power to your teen. No one knows your child as well as you. Don’t feel obligated to go along with society’s norm or the parenting practices of others. Be the parent your child needs you to be, and overlook the small stuff as much as you can. Once a month or so, give some thought to your parental leash. Is it too short, too long or just about right considering the immediate needs of your unique teen?